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Amy Vanderbilt (July 22, 1908 - December 27, 1974) was a U.S. authority on etiquette. In 1952 she published the best selling book Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Book of Etiquette. The book, later retitled Amy Vanderbilt's Etiquette, ...

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Good manners have much to do with the emotions. To make them ring true, one must feel them, not merely exhibit them.

We must learn which ceremonies may be breached occasionally at our convenience and which ones may never be if we are to live pleasantly with our fellow man.
It should be kept in mind that this is a celebration in honor of the baby, following a formal religious ceremony. It has a character quite different from a cocktail party and should be kept on such a plane that even the most conservative baby could not object to the behavior and bearing of his elders.
In Victorian days, when young girls up to the age of about eighteen were closely guarded at home, their debuts or formal introduction to their parents' friends in society had real meaning. . . . Today, however, with most girls going on to college, the debut when it occurs is merely a break in the educational procedure. It is rather meaningless now as an announcement that the girl is on the marriage market, for with four years ahead of her of increasingly difficult college courses, the girl, if she is sensible, awaits the completion of her education before marrying.
Of all life's ceremonies that of marriage is the most touching and beautiful. This is the long anticipated climax of girlhood--and boyhood, too--the doorway to true maturity, the farewell to parents as protectors, the acceptance of responsibility.
No one should consider a last-minute invitation an insult. . . . A neighbor or close friend should not feel diffident about offering last-minute invitations. It is a pleasant thing at the end of a long day to find that you have plenty of food and energy to entertain a guest or two who may well feel equally delighted to put aside dinner plans and join you. This kind of spontaneous entertainment is much more attractive than the planned kind.